R U OK? Tuning in to feelings and emotions in Palliative Caring

R u OK

Today is R U OK? day.

Do you know anyone caring for someone with a life
limiting illness?

It is normal for carers to experience a range of feelings and emotions, including fear and resentment.

Carers may may fear the unknown, or worry they won’t be present when the person they are caring for dies.

Sometimes carers find it hard to acknowledge that they need help, fearing it is a sign of weakness or that they are not coping. So today is a good day to start that conversation with a carer: “Are you ok?

To find out suggestions on how to start that conversation click on the following link: https://www.ruok.org.au/how-to-as

Are you a carer?

If you are a carer, being aware of your feelings and emotions will help you to cope with the grief, anxiety and sadness that are a natural part of being with someone as they approach the end of life. Recognise your physical and emotional limits.

Also, even though you may have promised the person who is unwell that you would always look after them, it may not be possible. It is okay to stop being a carer.

You may feel distress or guilt at having to say that you are unable to continue. You may find it hard to and over to someone else. You may also feel a sense of relief. This is ok as well. There is no right or wrong way to feel about giving up this role.

Do not be afraid to ask for help. Your wellbeing is vital to your role as a carer. Try to share the load so you don’t become overwhelmed and exhausted.